Rule # 1 – Taking Responsibility


In the world we are living today, there is a solution or a chance to make things better almost in every area of our lives.

The Internet makes self-improvement cheap and easier than ever before.

For any area we are facing a frustrating dissatisfaction, whether it’s loosing weight or becoming financially independent, there are plenty of tools and information that can help us achieve our goals.

Let me spend 2 minutes on an example about loosing weight:

I have been a Herbalife distributor for the past year and I know for a fact now that if you want to lose weight Herbalife can do miracles. It really can.

It’s easy, relatively cheap and incredibly effective. I have seen people loosing 10, 20 and 40 kg in a relatively short period of time. Then keeping that weight and living a better life.

I have also seen people using the same products and say “It doesn’t work” and sometimes “I actually gained weight!”.

Both scenarios are impossible. Because, in few words, Herbalife weight loss programs consist in taking 2 shakes per day instead of consuming 2 regular meals. The 3rd meal is “free” (you can basically eat whatever you want).

These shakes contain high nutrients in it (vitamins, proteins, minerals, fibers etc…) and are about 200 calories each. That means that for 2 meals a day instead of taking an average of 500 calories for a typical meal, you take only 200 per meal.

Math is not an opinion. 200 calories are less than what you would take with a regular meal, so fewer calories in and you lose weight. You burn more calories than those you intake. While still having all the nutrients you need to stay healthy.Is that simple.

So how come some people don’t lose weight or even gain weight then?

Because they don’t follow the program, they eat more then they are supposed to and they DON’T TAKE RESPONSIBILITY. They blame their temporary failure on someone else or something outside of themselves, by making up excuses.

But it’s ok.

I understand these people, I am on their side. We are not here to judge. We are here to speak about it, share some useful resources and eventually make things better.

Some people are going through some really hard times in their lives, some are really stressed, some others may struggle a mental fight before every meal. They wish they would eat less, but it seems there is something stronger than their will that wins over. They feel terrible about it. I feel your pain!

Unfortunately, creating a story inside our minds trying to convince ourselves that it’s not our fault, it is not healthy.

I am 100% convinced that it is FUNDAMENTAL to realize that TAKING RESPONSIBILITY gives us power back.

Power to choose better options, power to make incredible changes.

When we are responsible for something, we have the power to change it. If we blame it on something outside of our circle, we lose the chance to have an effect of whatever we are dealing with.

When dealing with weight loss, I heard people saying things like “It’s the society. Everything is so fast, you just eat whatever you can, there’s so many things to do”.

I agree that we live in a fast paced world, but it’s not society that force us to eat certain foods. We decide what to eat. We are responsible for that. No excuses.

If a person thinks that it’s society’s fault, how are they gonna make a change over something they perceive they can’t control?

Making some changes may be hard in certain cases, but it’s possible for everyone, in any area.

I think that shifting our thinking to “I decide what food to eat and when, I have 100% control over what I decide to eat, therefore I am 100% responsible for my eating habits and my weight”.

On a side note I would like to add that all of our actions are determined by what’s inside our subconscious.

When a habit is so deeply instilled in our subconscious it takes some great work to change it. But it’s absolutely possible, Bob Proctor is a great teacher in this area. I highly recommend you check out his material. He has been on “The Secret” and he is an incredible person and he shares so many valuable information, it’s really life changing. (

Shifts in paradigms create incredible changes in our results (I will talk about this, in detail, in a later post).

The “weight loss” example can be applied to other areas of our lives such as business and relationships.

Where we trick ourselves into thinking that we have no control over our business or our personal relationships, we lose.

We always have control, we can always make things better. All the tools and information in the world are out there! It all can be found on the internet and usually is relatively cheap…if not free in most cases. A lot of very valuable material in fact, is sent through free newsletters multiple times per week, by gurus in every topic you may be interested in. Free ebooks, webinars, seminars, bonus material etc…it’s all available to you.

To conclude, I know that most of  us wish that our situation would be different, our background would be different, maybe our age would be different, they country we live in would be different…but accepting our situation as it is, even if doesn’t feel fair to us, it’s an amazing starting point. Acting like a victim does not pay much. Taking responsibility and starting to change things does.

So let me share some of my favourites people in the world. I think that if you are not familiar with these names it would be great to check out their material.

If I were in your shoes, I would go to these sites and sign up to their free newsletters. I say it because I did!

Ready to stop feeling frustrated and make some real change? So here we go!

Gurus for enhancing your dating and personal relationship life:

Christian Carter:  (for women)

Women do yourself a big favor and go to this site, he is so incredible. He can understand and communicate to women in a way that I have never seen before. You will understand so many things about men and about yourself, it will make your dating life so much better. Finding the right guy and having a fulfilling relationship it will be much easier!—

David DeAngelo: (for men)

Men of all ages, same thing as i just said to women, please listen to me. Do yourself the biggest favor of your life, go to this site, and seriously your dating life will be so much better. More women, more dates, more fun, more fulfillment. If you ever struggled with women or hated them because the ones you liked saw you just as a friend, or you went on expensive awkward dates with women who never answered back, or you just didn’t figure out why the hell women are attracted to the “bad guy” and don’t understand that if they would be with You they would so much happier! This guy is for you. I saw my dating life and the ones whom I shared this material with…skyrocket in a matter of months. Understanding women better, will make your life so much easier and more enjoyable. David DeAngelo is the man!

Gurus to start making more money:

Eben Pagan:

Bob Proctor:

Dan Kennedy:

Brian Tracy:

Anthony Robbins:

Gurus to start being more healthy:

Alexander Lloyd:

Gurus to experience a deeper spirituality:

Gregg Braden:

David Icke:

In this post I named just a few. There’s many, many more.

If we are ready to TAKE RESPONSIBILITY we can make any area of our life better.

I hope this helped You. At least, now you have some resources where you can put your hands on for free, and you can start making some changes right away.

If you feel like commenting or sharing it will always be very appreciated!

“Change is inevitable but personal growth is a choice”.

Is there any area where you can start taking more responsibility today?
How would that affect your results in the future?

Alberto Dassi


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